Reflection: A Simple Way to Help Your Child Build Confidence
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As the year comes to a close, it’s a great time to look back on everything that’s happened. Taking time to reflect with your child can celebrate their growth, build confidence, and inspire future goals.
“Kids often have a hard time seeing the big picture,” says Melissa Brandon, principal of National Heritage Academies'® (NHA) PrepNet Virtual Academy. “The things that stick in their memory are usually highly emotional—and often negative. That’s why it’s so important to guide them in reflecting on the good things, too. It helps them realize, ‘I’m doing really good things,’ and builds their confidence.”
How to Start
If you’re new to this, focus on questions to help your child recall important moments. Instead of asking a broad question like “How was your year?” try something more specific, such as:
Make It a Habit
Reflection can also become part of your routine. Encourage your child to write notes at the end of each week about:
“Number one, they know that I’m expecting them to be helpful,” Brandon explains. “But number two, they’re going to have to think about the ways they interact with others. And then they might reflect, ‘Ooh, I could have been more helpful.’”
Avoid vague questions like “How was your day?” Brandon advises. “It’s too generic, and kids don’t know how to answer. Focus on something specific to get meaningful answers.”
Looking Ahead
Reflection isn’t just about the past—it’s also the first step toward setting goals. Questions like “What’s something you’d like to grow in?” or “Is there a skill you’d like to work on for sports?” helps your child identify areas for growth.
“You cannot create a strong goal if you haven’t already figured out what you’ve done well and where you need to go,” Brandon says. “When kids accomplish something they’ve worked hard on, they feel proud. That sense of pride shows them they can tackle challenges, which builds confidence for future successes.”
About National Heritage Academies
National Heritage Academies (NHA®) is a network of more than 100 tuition-free, public charter schools across nine states, serving more than 65,000 students in kindergarten through high school. For more information, visit nhaschools.com. To find a charter school near you, use the NHA school finder.
“Kids often have a hard time seeing the big picture,” says Melissa Brandon, principal of National Heritage Academies'® (NHA) PrepNet Virtual Academy. “The things that stick in their memory are usually highly emotional—and often negative. That’s why it’s so important to guide them in reflecting on the good things, too. It helps them realize, ‘I’m doing really good things,’ and builds their confidence.”
How to Start
If you’re new to this, focus on questions to help your child recall important moments. Instead of asking a broad question like “How was your year?” try something more specific, such as:
- “What was a subject that you improved the most in this year?”
- “What was something that you thought was going to be really hard but ended up being not so bad?”
- “Do you remember the day we went on the field trip?”
- “What about the week your teacher was sick, and you had a substitute?”
Make It a Habit
Reflection can also become part of your routine. Encourage your child to write notes at the end of each week about:
- Something they’re proud of.
- A challenge they overcame.
- An exciting moment.
“Number one, they know that I’m expecting them to be helpful,” Brandon explains. “But number two, they’re going to have to think about the ways they interact with others. And then they might reflect, ‘Ooh, I could have been more helpful.’”
Avoid vague questions like “How was your day?” Brandon advises. “It’s too generic, and kids don’t know how to answer. Focus on something specific to get meaningful answers.”
Looking Ahead
Reflection isn’t just about the past—it’s also the first step toward setting goals. Questions like “What’s something you’d like to grow in?” or “Is there a skill you’d like to work on for sports?” helps your child identify areas for growth.
“You cannot create a strong goal if you haven’t already figured out what you’ve done well and where you need to go,” Brandon says. “When kids accomplish something they’ve worked hard on, they feel proud. That sense of pride shows them they can tackle challenges, which builds confidence for future successes.”
National Heritage Academies (NHA®) is a network of more than 100 tuition-free, public charter schools across nine states, serving more than 65,000 students in kindergarten through high school. For more information, visit nhaschools.com. To find a charter school near you, use the NHA school finder.